“The power is in the relationship!” This is a truth that I frequently find myself sharing with parents of the many adolescents I coach. It is also one that I remind myself of to this day, even though my daughter is soon to be 21 years old. The quality of the relationship we have with our children, teens and adult children is the key to our ability to impact their lives, in the ways we desire and feel important. Simple and true. If you have cultivated a relationship of deep respect and appreciation for your child or children, they will more likely want to hear what you have to say. They will be more inclined to at least consider or reflect on what you believe is meaningful or important. The power is in the relationship, so give it your all in the multitude of little ways that add up to big results and strong connections.
Often we don’t appreciate our significance in the lives of those closest to us. The problem with not realizing your significance, is that it then becomes too easy to cut out, disengage, or detach yourself from those in your intimate circle. Not recognizing how significant you are to your children, partner, family members or dear friends leaves you open to hurting them in unconscious, mindless ways. The power is in the relationship. Circling back around, we must value ourselves and know we matter to others. Only then can we appreciate how others treasure interactions with us. Today, know you matter, and cultivate the power of this in your relationships!